Beti Bachao PAR Beti Mat Padhao!

                                     YES! Don’t educate her otherwise no one will marry her.

Have you ever heard when people taunts like this to a girl or to her parents –Jyda mat padhao ladka nahi milega; kyun padh rahi hai itna? Time pass kar rahi hai shadi tak? ; abhi mat padh sasural jaake padhna; ladkiyo ko padhana he nahi cahhiye bahut jaban chalne lagti hai; bas graduation tak ho gai padhai ab shadi kardo; jaldi shadi karne se adjustment mein dikkat nahi hoti and baad mein ladka bhi nahi milega ; areey jyada padhi likhi hai ghar ka kya kaam karegi and many more comments like these.These words are often heard by those daughters whose parents has seriously taken the slogan ‘Beti Bachao, Beti Padhao’. They believed that it is equally important to educate the daughter as son because they know how important it is to be educated in today's era.

Now i am in my late twenties,i am observing the Indian culture like never before and i curse myself for observing it, because after knowing the fact how fantabulous our society is, i lost my vision of observation forever.Earlier i used to think ‘mera bharat mahaan’ now i wonder, is it seriously mahaan ? .When i was a child, i wanted to grow up,i  wanted to buy everything with my own money ,dreamt that i will give gifts to my family and friends with it ,live life happily with my partner and achieve greater heights in life,BUT, now i hate being a grown up.It is more scarier than i thought.

Marriage is an ‘act of god’ here (jodiyan upar se banke aati hai) .BUT I wonder the way arranged marriages happens in India has nothing to do with the God ,because he can’t be this way illogical, unreasonable and insensitive.

Now according to the Indian society, i am over aged (only for marriage) and i am not married yet, so my destiny is cursed and blamed.There is a "fault in my stars"(according to society) and my parents are tensed, BUT,more than my parents, my relatives are tensed that i am not married (i don't know what they will get?) .But after observing the process of selecting the bride and the groom,i am already feeling disgusted and shocked, more shocked to be precise. I don’t understand the people’s perspective over it,it is still a riddle for me.I don’t understand what people think of themselves?.There are certain traits the family rejects and accepts the girl like color, scars ,financial status ,her/ his past, dowry etc,but what i find the most shocking part is, rejecting the girl for being more educated, because they think that more education equals to that she is less homely. On one side we say “Beti Padhao , Beti Bachao’ but if she studies no one wants to marry them because of the big male egos and orthodox thoughts of the Indian families. Because we think the reason for the broken marriages and divorces is the education of the girl!. I mean WHAT?.We claim that  India is a progressive nation,i really want to know that, are we seriously educating the masses?or just giving a degree so that they can get a decent job.

I just want to say to all those illogical people who thinks that the educated girl has the high ego and she can’t be a good wife.Just think twice and think what an educated girl can do,she could be so beneficial for your family in various ways. The edge of getting married to an educated girl are countless.She can help you sustain financially.What if one day the husband dies early leaving two little kids ,how would the wife and the kids will survive?.For meeting these kinds of contingencies ,she should be educated and she should take the stand for herself and for her kids.She understands what work pressure is;She knows  how to deal with the outside world and many more.

India can change, not just by saying Beti Bachao Beti Padhao, but, all of us has to understand that she might want to make her career. You have to deal with the fact that she is also a human being who has certain dreams in her life which she wants to fulfill on her own. You should be proud of your daughter as well your daughter in law and encourage them to pursue their dreams.

I will only get married to a person who will believe in the value of education in true sense not only in virtual sense. The reason of high divorce rates is not education of the girl child, but it is because, there are other evils which exists in the society which are still hidden and not much talked about.

Summing up this with my favorite quotation ‘ if you educate a man ,you educate an individual ,but if you educate a woman you educate the whole society’. I thank my parents for giving me wings and let me fly in whatever direction i always wanted to. I am seriously blessed!. 

BETI BACHAO BETI PADHAO because that is worth it.